Sunday, July 21, 2019

What Losing My Job Taught Me and Other Updates

Hellloooo everyone.  How are you? It's been like.... 9 months.  No I did not disappear to have a baby {snort}, but I did take a break to focus on my mental health and find a better balance to my life.  In fact, I took so much of a break that my Facebook Page needed to be "made private" until I could gather myself enough to start posting regularly again. 

So what's been going on with me you ask? Let's see...

1. Started a new job April 2018
2. Found out my contract was ending in "the new year".
3. Started a new job in January of this year (thank the LORD)
4. Oh and I went to Austin, TX twice in the last year 

When I write it out, it does not seem like a whole lot of activity does it? But to me that was a crazy, crazy, crazy whirlwind of a year.  When I left my job April 2018 I was super excited to go onto bigger and better things and try something different.  I was working from home 99.9% of the time, learning the ins and outs of Compliance and growing professionally.  In my head, this new job afforded me all kinds of opportunities that I never would have had at my last job.  However, the rug was quickly pulled out from under my feet and I found myself scrambling to figure out what I would be doing next.  When I found out that my job was not, in fact, a long-term contract it knocked the wind right out of my sails.  

To be blunt, I felt extremely defeated and started questioning if I made the right decision to leave my old company, questioning if I was "good enough" and questioning what in the WORLD would be happening next in my life.  And of COURSE, I was upset because we were on this epic plan to pay off all of our credit card debt in 18 months and all I could focus on was the fact that we weren't going to be able to do that...  weird right? Thankfully, the universe had a plan for me and provided me with a new opportunity in the same department as before just under a different team.  And I honestly have been much happier than I ever imagined I could be while working a job.  Imagine that.

So why am I telling you this? Well because while this whole experience stunk, I actually learned a few things and I thought I might come to share them with you all.

Things I Learned When I Lost My Job

1. Being stressed is 100% okay and 100% normal.  Throughout this whole process I was extremely stressed out.  I knew that my job would be coming to an end and that I would need to find more work.  And we ALL know that you are more employable when you're already employed so I was scrambling to get any interviews I could on the calendar the week before Christmas... which was a total of 1 interview.  I also was applying for 10+ potential jobs every day just to get as many applications as I could out into the world.  But throughout this whole stressful adventure, I was constantly reminded by family and friends that being stressed was okay and to just do what I could and trust that it will work out.  

2. Saying "no thank you" to an interview is not a bad thing.  Because I had gone from driving 45+ miles into the office daily to hardly ever going into an office, I knew that I would not feel comfortable going back to a long commute again.  When searching for new jobs I only applied for positions that were within a comfortable driving distance.  And when a company contacted me for a position that was not within that radius, I politely declined and asked them to reach out in the future if they have any opportunities that do not require long commute.  To some, rejecting an interview due to long commute might be silly, but I knew my limit and would not pursue a job with a long commute unless absolutely necessary.

3. Don't be afraid to ask for more (within reason).  When my first job offer came through I was so excited.  Not only would it be a simple transition, I would not be unemployed at any point.  This meant I would not have a gap in pay or miss out on any benefits.  The only bad thing about the offer... was slightly less than my current salary.  Of course, I was a bit disappointed that it was less, but then I realized that it is completely acceptable for me to ask for them to make up the difference.  Bargaining is part of the process, is it not? What harm could it do? So of course I talked with HR and told them that I would really like for them to match my previous salary (especially since it was not much more to get there).  She informed me that the salary could not be increased, but they could look at possibly doing a signing bonus and low and behold, the signing bonus made up for majority of the difference and I only ended up losing $500 a year which wasn't a big deal when the benefits package was so exceptional.

4. Give yourself grace.  Changing jobs once in a year is hard.  Changing jobs twice in 12 months is even more challenging.  They say it takes at least 6 months to get a really good understanding about your new job.  I had finally felt like I had found my groove and was ready to really dig my hands into my work and start expanding then I found out my contract was ending.  When I started my current position, I found myself constantly frustrated that I was lost or making mistakes.  I knew it was part of the process and that it would take time, but I just wanted to feel good at my job again.  That's when my mother, who is very wise I might add, reminded me to give myself grace.  "It takes time to adjust" she said.  And I knew she was right.  Since then, I've been able to give grace in moments which I previously would not.

So that is the four things I learned from losing my job.  I'm sure that more will come to move over time, but these are what I have so far.  

What's Next?

Over the past few months I have been brainstorming topics I'd like to cover with you all on the blog and over the next month or so I am planning/hoping to start posting at least once a week.  That way I am still engaging with you all, but I am NOT overwhelming myself.  The last thing I want to do is give you crummy content while simultaneously stretching myself too thin.


Question of the Day:
What advise would you give to someone that lost their job?

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Monday, October 1, 2018

October: Month @ a Glance

Happy October 1st everyone! I am so excited the October is finally here.  It is so hard to believe that we are hitting the last three months of the year and are quickly approaching the "holiday season".  I love this time of year because it is filled with fun and exciting events and plenty of time with friends and family.  I'm also excited because this year I have a plan to end the year strong versus waiting until the New Year.  If you haven't had a chance to check it out, check out my #Last90Days Update that I posted yesterday!

October is always a fun and exciting month for us because we have our anniversary and my niece's birthday.  Not to mention all of the fun we have with Halloween and passing out candy.  

So here's what's on our agenda this month! 

On the Agenda this Month:

1. Ladies retreat with my mom
2. Dinner date with my friend
3. My niece's 6th birthday
4. Halloween Party at our house
5. Football and Cheer for my niece and nephew
6. Our 7th anniversary

Goals for October

1. Read Two Books:  This goal is perpetually on my list, but I am excited to start tackling it.  Reading is part of my daily goals for the #Last90Days challenge.  Ideally, I'd like to get more than 2 books done, but I also have other things I need to get done every day, so we will see.

2. Exercise daily: Another focus of the #Last90Days challenge is to do 30 minutes of exercise daily.  So the plan is to get 30 minutes of exercise every day either by using the #tiu31 daily moves combined with another workout.  I'm leaning toward doing stretching or yoga because my back has been bothering me lately and I think it would help with the pain.  

Normally I do three goals for the month, but I think I'm going to just focus on two this month.  These seem like good areas for me to focus on this month.  

Question of the Day: What costume are you wearing for Halloween this year?

Share your responses below in the comments! 

I'd love to hear from you!

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Sunday, September 30, 2018

#Last90Days Update

Happy Sunday everyone! I hope you have had a wonderful week and are looking forward to some fun this coming weekend.  In my post earlier this week I talked about the #Last90Days challenge that I am participating in with Rachel Hollis

Before I get too deep into the #Last90Days goals I have set for myself, I just wanted to mention that if you have not had a chance to read Girl, Wash Your Face, I think you should definitely consider picking it up the next time you're at Target or while you're putting in your next Amazon Prime order.  I have been making a deliberate effort to read at least three chapters a night of the book and it has been difficult for me to put it down just after my three chapters. 

The purpose of today's post is to talk about the goals I am setting for myself over the next 90 days.  I wanted to make sure that I really took the time to sit and reflect on what I was planning for myself and what I would like to see myself get out of this challenge.  So often I start a challenge then give up because there really was not true motivation for me to finish, but this time I have set myself up in a way that will help me be successful.

One part of the challenge is the 5 to Thrive.  The idea is to do these 5 things every day to help you stay on track with your goals.  Ironically, three of these five things are things I really wanted to get better about doing, so it was an easy decision to go with the whole list. 

To start the challenge, I believe that these 5 things are great areas to focus on.  They are all not too time consuming and should be relatively easy for me to incorporate into my daily routine.  So let's talk through each one,

1. Wake up 1 hour early.  I am going to be honest, this one might be difficult for me to do.  Y'all I am NOT a morning person.  Getting out of bed in the morning is probably my least favorite thing to do.  But I know that if I get up earlier and take that time for myself, I will be thankful I got up earlier.  On an average day I am getting up between 7:30 and 7:45 and starting work at my home office around 8:00 a.m. so that means I need to consider getting out of bed around 6:30 a.m.  The biggest thing for me is knowing what I am waking up for.  The plan right now is to use some of my early time to get a workout in (if I don't already have one planned for the evening) and use the other time to do my morning routine + anything else I want to get done.  If I find something that I am excited to do every day, I will be more likely to get out of bed.

2. Workout at least 30 minutes.  I am excited to share that I found a workout that I can do for the month of October that provides me with at least 30 minutes of exercise.  I know I've talked previously about the Tone It Up program - well they're doing a 31 day challenge in the month of October! The plan is to do their daily workouts plus whatever other little exercise they have on the agenda.  Once October comes to an end, I will continue doing the workouts they provide.

3. Drink 1/2 weight in water.  I love drinking water, but I honestly forget to drink water every day.  I think on average I get between 20-30 ounces of water a day? I know how badly my body needs water and I know it will improve my overall health but let me tell you, drinking 100+ ounces of water a day is going to be a chore for me.  

4. Give up one food category.  I put a lot of thought into this one and decided that for the last 90 days of the year I would give up pop (or soda if you're not from the mid-west).  Lately I have been finding that I have been going for a Pepsi versus water and it is not helping my dehydration at all.  Another area I might give up is caffeine, but I haven't decided if I'm quite there yet.  I have been really digging tea lately and that might be a healthier option over my pop.  If I do decide to give up caffeine altogether, I will be sure to let everyone know.

5. Gratitude journal.  Every year I try to keep a gratitude journal at least for the month of November, and every year I get a week or so in and stop.  But not this year.  I bought this notebook to use for tracking my goals, taking notes and writing down my 10 things I am grateful for every day.  I was a bit wary ordering a notebook I haven't seen in person, but this one is so cute.  The gold on the spirals is just so fun.  

Bonus #6. Read a book daily.  One of my favorite past times is reading and I have not (until this week) spent any time reading books.  In fact, I had a goal to ready 40 books and at this point I have read 4.  I am at 10% of my goal and the year is 75% done.  My goal for the last 90 days is to read a book a week by dedicating time every evening to reading before bed.  

I am excited for next Monday to come and to get started on this challenge! Along with these 6 tasks, I am also going to be spending the next 90 days really sitting down and focusing on my goals for myself.  In Girl, Wash Your Face, Rachel talks about how it's not just about setting the goal for yourself, but also visualizing in thorough detail what your end result would like like, then writing that goal down.  The last year I have felt very confused about where I should be in my life and now is the time for me to get it all figured out. 

I plan to provide three updates throughout this journey - once every 30 days.  I was thinking about doing a check in weekly, but it almost felt like overkill.  I will, however, be posting updates on my Fitness Instagram if you'd like to follow along on my journey.  

Would you participate in a challenge like this?   

Share your responses below in the comments! 

I'd love to hear from you!

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